SF, I have to agree with ACJ on this one. He's in a hole right now and w/that time in the hole, comes time to process everything. He needs this time to face his demons.
SF, give him plenty of time and space. He's still baking. Do not worry, he will be in touch again very soon.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
H called S17 today and told him he would be coming to pick up the rest of his stuff. I am sure he will do this while I am at work.
I don't know if this is good or bad.
Just a few days ago he said how much he loved me and that he was so miserable over there.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Steelers, I don't know what to say. In my opinion, he does seem confused. How can one say he loves you and at the same time run away to a place he hates. It's spiritual warfare...
you could always box it up for him neatly and leave it out of the bedroom. its not a sign you dont want him, its a sign you you support him what ever decsion he makes. put a christian ILY card in it.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
he does not have that much and it is already boxed and in the garage. heck, he even went so far as to take several winter coats of his and we live in the desert!!!
and once again, he has not contacted me.
he did make a rather snide remark to S17 yesterday. S told me that he told his dad that we were out of milk, bread, water and that i do not get paid for another week and he said, whats new and then told S that he cannot afford anything.
i never called or texted him to buy the stuff so i just try to ignore it.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I have had no contact with H since very late Monday night, and he did not come over today to get his stuff. I imagine he may do this over the weekend, but it sounded as if he was coming over when I was not around. S17 has not heard from his dad all day either.
I am okay--doing my own thing and letting him do his own thing and I am not contacting him at all unless an emergency arises.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
H sounds like he is just twisting in the wind, totally unsure of which way is up. Hang in there, you have been such a steady DBer all this time, if you choose to you know you can do it a little longer. Sigh. This MLC garbage just seems to go on and on and on...
He hasn't really called S17 that much this week, either.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I have to admit this is the most no contact I have had with H, ever.
We'll see what this weekend brings. I plan on doing my own thing and right now, I really don't care to see him. I know that sounds awful but it is just how I feel at the moment.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
