so I"m off to lawyer's office now. just giving him his retainer and asking questions. h has been very "quiet" this week with me and I feel a shift (like the new arrangements are a big pain in the ass as my lawyer predicted they would be for him). Every time he comes here, he cleans, does his laundry, like he lives here. like he didn't make the decision to leave. I say nothing, just let him go about his business. I mean last night, (I couldn't WAIT for him to go) he was to pick up d and stayed for over an hour "cleaning". wtf??? He's a neat-freak by nature, but what does he care about the way the house looks now? AND, by the way, it WAS clean. Just not to his standards.
It's so f'ing wierd. I need advice. there is paper that can be drawn up here in ny state that states that d5 is to have ZERO contact with OW (he's having affair). Should I have lawyer put that it the works, or is that a db, no-no? She's only 5 years old and is having trouble with all of this as it is. The thought of her being around my child is unacceptable to me and highly innapropriate. I nicely brought this up to h when he was here on Thursday and he agreed that they would spend the weekend just h and d and that OW wouldn't be around, but he has lied and lied and lied up to this point, how can I believe him? He really seemed sincere and seemed to get that it WAS/IS highly innapropriate, esp. since we haven't even filed anything yet.
