I am sorry. Please call me. I know he will choose you, you are the prize.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
I am OK. I welcome the distraction of phone calls.
I have kept my calendar rather open, as TJ and I were spending time together on the weekends pretty regularly. Long periods of time alone in my immediate future. That scares me. I have done it before,and it is OK, but I am not ready for OK right now,I was looking forward to terrific, and it just seems very empty. I deserve terrific.
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
I feel a little like a nursery rhyme, or was it Marie Antonette who cried, " let them eat cake". I hope she didn't mean it. Maybe that is why she lost her head!
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
As my H likes to say: it is much easier to continue in an adulterous lifestyle than it is to face the reality and harm this has done to those they love because it is so very hard to deal with.
I am not saying that TJ would prefer that lifestyle but what I am saying is that it is easier to avoid reality and all of the harm this has caused those they love the most.
I have faith in TJ and he will come around. Just give him some time. Holly is a very classy lady and I cannot see him giving her up.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
As my H likes to say: it is much easier to continue in an adulterous lifestyle than it is to face the reality and harm this has done to those they love because it is so very hard to deal with.
SF, I am not so sure. I think the really hard part for them is facing all the demons that caused them to behave that way in the first place. That is the super scary place for them. The hurt and destruction they caused to others is great, but pales in comparison. It takes a back seat. But, yes, eventually it must be addressed, as well.
Holly, Hang in there.
Hugs,
Spitty
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
