H is Having Affair after all - Part 2

[seekpeaceofmind]

I thought you were probably dealing with a lot of "stuff" swirling around you last week. It's hard to stay centered in the midst of all that and your H does seem to create a certain amount of chaos by being impulsive and impatient. Now is not the time for knee jerk actions - your financial security is at stake. . . . It's worth it to both of you to take the time to think things through and it doesn't seem that he was addressing the money side of things until the A was discovered.

I think it is good in many ways that you are not interested in getting into a fight with him over a property settlement as long as you stand your ground on what is fair. A lot of times you see couples fight viciously over petty stuff - who gets the blue china plate or whatever. I never thought those fights were worth the negative energy. I don't even think it's worth it on the larger property questions - people who try to put the screws to the other as a way of acting out their pain are hurting themselves even more. IMO.

I'm really sorry you are in this place right now. It's a lot of stress. Buy yourself some flowers this w/e? I have lots of daffodils right now, so I am going to cut some to bring in and I am going to come up with an affirmation to repeat to myself everytime they catch my eye. . . .