The sad thing is that trust isn't going to happen over night. I've heard it described that it comes in very... VERY tiny intervals. Also... doesn't take much for the progress to be thwarted or slid back down the ladder.

Be calm, and "verify" is the best way to deal with it, I'm finding. I don't think the full road to trust happens until there's a lot of normal "couple" like activity happening. For a lot of us, that's a ways off yet.

Funniest thing I've heard from the OP dept this week was my H's OP was dancing and ho'ing up a storm with some new neighbourhood guy on the dance floor 3 weeks back. Sometimes a little "outside" luck switches things around for ya... and you don't have to get your hands dirty or anything. Believe, believe \:\)

Keeping good thoughts for us all.
Abbey

T:22, M:20
H:55 Me:45
H-OW PA: N/07
OW Jan08
Bomb:Feb/08
S: Apr/08
Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11
Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess.
Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.