I honestly do not believe that MLC'ers have a clue as to half of their actions.

Yes, certain boundaries need to be enforced if there is abuse, I totally agree.

But your response was about wanting to know why anyone would want a spouse who lies, cheats or loves to fight.

Aren't you here to save your Marriage from someone with these issues too?

As for the child abuse, I doubt very much that she is characterised by being an abuser, she made one stupid mistake, it was wrong but she is not an abuser.

IF she was, then BT would never have tolerated it.

There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.