Once he stopped calling/texting me, it was about 2 months before I contacted him. I needed the space to figure out things for myself, the more he tried to get me back, the further it pushed me away. That is why I am trying hard not to contact him now! I feel it will push him further away!
I don't know how he can stay away from his little girl, that would kill me. But who knows what is going thru his head. Right now, it is killing me not to talk to him, but knowing in the end, there's a chance not talking or communicating could save my M, it's worth it. He (my H) needs a chance to figure this out on his own, probably as well as your sig. other.
It took me a long time to rid myself of anger, that is something he has to do on his own. He will have to do a lot of introspection and self reflection. Things you will not be able to do for him. For me, most of my anger wasn't anything to do with my H, it was other issues that were going on in my life; issues between he and I just compounded the anger, me leaving was just the result of all the bottled up emotions.
What's most important is you take care of yourself, so you can take great care of the little one. She only has one parent right now, and she needs you to be the best you can be. Little ones have a 6th sense, so she can probably pick up on your anxiety as well.
take care, hugs Christa
H-32 Me-29 T-10years M-4yr (10/04) Me- WAW 1/07 I filed for D 2/07 D put on hold 5/07 H re-files for D 9/08 WOW! trying MC 10/08
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