I know what you mean about feeling like the dialoguing is unnecessary when you are doing it and it is working. But then when you don't do it, then things just aren't as good. Right now you are on the road to misunderstandings. You have a lot of unanswered questions. She probably does too. There is no reason you can't dialogue even if you are physically separated. It only takes about 1/2 and hour a day. Surely, you can find a way to spend that much time together, if not daily, then 4 or 5 times a week. The important thing is to choose questions that you really want to know the answers to. If you are dialoguing about the weather, you won't get any closer.
