i'm clueless....

[Dom R]

PS: you seem sensitive enough to do this anyway, but just to cover all bases ...

When you tell him specifics about what you'd like to see, I dont mean to imply you should just bark at him, "this is what I need, now do it!"

Rather, I think you should stick with the theme of " i need you to be more understanding and considerate (...)", and then follow it up with, "and here is another way you can show me that..."

gentle, but clear, firm nudges, you might say.