I just got back from seeing a movie with one of my good friends (and pen pal) from my DivorceCare (DC) group. Since no one else from our group could make it, and since she is of the opposite gender, it would technically qualify as a "date". I had a good time and she seemed to enjoy it as well (we saw "21".)
But now I am feeling a bit guilty(?) and a bit confused, I'm not sure, as this is one of the things we're warned of in our DC sessions, to avoid situations where we are alone with members of the opposite sex, especially while we are still healing from a separation or divorce. Getting together in groups is okay, but not one-on-one. All the way I drove back home I kept turning this over and over in my mind, how I need good friends like these men and women in DC, and I care about each and every one of them a lot. I just don't want to jeopardize anything or anyone. I know I am light-years away from being ready for a new R with someone, as I have a lot more healing to do -- and I am not even divorced yet. Neither is she for that matter.
I need to pray and think a lot more on this. But then I think I already know what God expects of me in this matter. I showed a lack of discretion.
