This really is the question, isn't it? Is she available to other men? You are going to have to discuss it. I would recommend dialoguing on it, to get full answers, not just conversation. What drives spouses apart is living a married-singles lifestyle. What holds a marriage together is doing things together, and working together toward goals. For a while there I was sort of believing that although you were separating, you were doing it together, and therefore, somehow, maybe, it wouldn't push you further apart. But if the separation is to have a singles lifestyle, then there really isn't much question as to where it will lead. A good first question is, "How do I feel about wearing my wedding ring?" When that has been fully explored you will probably have other deeper questions that need to be explored.
That sure is the question. I really don't know at this point, but I do need to ask the question. Two or three weeks ago, I was actually looking forward to this separation. I was thinking that it would be good to get back to us dating each other. We talked about this and she joked several times that I could come over after the kids are in bed for some late night rendezvous. It all sounded good.
But then she suggested that I take this time to see other people to make sure about my feelings. I'm not sure what to make of this, but I do realize where it would lead. It would lead to me not wanting to work on the M. It would lead to those early relationship feelings that are so powerful. It would lead to me saying screw this crap - what is it again that I'm fighting for?
She has also hinted about her seeing other people. I'm not sure if this was brought up more than once, but the Friday before she moved out, we were out having a drink and she joked that it would be weird if we were both at the bar with our respective dates. Also that night, she was flirty with at least one guy at another bar we were at. In the past I would not have been overly bothered by this, but now...
The dialoguing is a good suggestion. When I look back at the Retro weekend and the follow-ups, something there made a difference. I don't know if it was just the dialoguing. It seems like such a simple thing. I think there was more at work than just that. Weird thing is that when we dialoged, we were usually very in sync with each others thoughts. We would frequently have the same examples and comparisons. When we slipped on the dialogs, other things slipped. Which came first, the slipping on the dialogs, or the slipping of the desire to make the committment to the dialogs. Don't know, but I think the dialoging could help us get on the same page again. Definitely worth the try.
Also that night, she was flirty with at least one guy at another bar we were at. In the past I would not have been overly bothered by this, but now... 
