Perhaps I can add something here, perhaps not, but here goes...
My sitch was the opposite of yours, I was LD, H was HD. I didn't start out that way, but over the years, a poor self-image, complicated by the way my H treated me (because of my LD), exacerbated our sitch. There were other contributors, but that's it in a nutshell. My H had an A. It wasn't until I found out about the A, that I found the courage to face my issues. I picked up 4 books, 2 on rekindling desire/libido and 2 on A's. I read on the books on rekinding desire/libido first.
I read about how such a sitch is so detrimental to the HD partner. I had no idea my H took my problem so personally. I was horrified. It wasn't necessarily him that I didn't want, it was the intimacy. I knew he wasn't happy about the lack of sex, but he never told me how it made he really feel. I wish he had.
If your H really wants to work on things, would he be open to a sex therapist? If not, the books I read were really helpful ... as long you can open your heart, too. We're on our way back, and he didn't trust it at first, but we're getting there. And I'm happy to say that I'm enjoying the process.
So, I agree with RedHeadWife, but from the other side of the fence, with work from both of you, you can turn this around.
