Well your first list was so thorough it was almost daunting. And then I read this from A_O and think how very true it is:
Originally Posted By: alpha_omega
Make a new list (this is a suggestion, please don't think I'm demanding a new list.). Not based on things you don't want because of the X. Instead, try modifying your list to forget the X and dig deep into your soul. Base this list on what your soul needs from another. This list should be what you want. Your needs.
I love this positive, what do I want, need and deserve approach to the list. Actually, I think one of the affirmations that was recommmended to me went something like: I am (already) loved by a man who... (fill in the blank with the positives that you want).
I ramble, sorry, but really liked a_o's suggestion for turning it around into the positive orientation.
