For example, The X was a very picky eater. So I adaptd my cooking - my family was surprised at how much I adapted... Not that big a deal - I mean if you simply can't eat certain foods b/c they make you gag - well that's that....
I think our X's may have been related.
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This is just one example - there are so many more examples of subtle gradually escalating very effective control techniques he used on me.
Control that both you and I allowed. Did your X also pout if he didn't get his way? My fault is trying to make others happy and comfortable. And that's not a bad thing as long as you meet in the middle.
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This really is very very annoying!!!! Why on earth will my gut not get what the head knows is right!! This is one of those times that the gut is wrong!
I think this is because your gut isn't buying it. You still have so much memory left of the X that you're gut is telling you that you need to move on from it. Your head's on board because it's logical. Recognize that you did what you felt you needed to do at the time to make the M work. Know that X is an individual and you will not run into anyone exactly like him again. Similar traits may appear in others, but not that same package.
Make a new list (this is a suggestion, please don't think I'm demanding a new list.). Not based on things you don't want because of the X. Instead, try modifying your list to forget the X and dig deep into your soul. Base this list on what your soul needs from another. This list should be what you want. Your needs.
We both learned so much from our M's. And I acknowledge those lessons and overall am thankful for the experience. If I had to do it all again to get where I am today, I would.
