[quote=SueS]The strangest thing in my sitch is that my stbxh HAS gone through this same thing as a child. He knows what it's like to be from a broken family with parents at each other's throats. Seems like you would try harder to avoid it for your own children. It just goes to show you what living in a dysfunctional family will do to a child. However, that fact DOES make me want to work even harder to make sure that I'm the stable parent in this...
Well.. one more month or so and I will be a free woman. I guess you just get to the point where you are ready to move up from your lowest low. I'm tired of living in limbo. I'm tired of walking on egg shells.
I just got another major guilt trip handed to me. STBXH make it clear once again how I hurt him so badly that he HAD to seek solace elsewhere. He says I meant everything to him, yet kicked him while he was down. WTH do I do with THAT???? *sigh*
Hi, Olive! My H is the same way, his parents had a bitter divorce & he was suicidal b/c of that. He has rewritten history though, and says that everything was fine when his parents divorce and our kids will be too, and D will be great?!? I guess my H can't face the truth or reality so has to rewrite history to deal. Yes, it's good we do provide the stableness for our poor kids!
I am feeling the limbo thing lately too--it's tough sometimes!!!
Don't let your H give you any guilt trips! I was going through the guilt/blame and I realized I have done everything my H wanted me to do (work on my depression, make more friends, better housecleaning, etc.) and extra stuff he didn't even ask for, and he is still with the OW and out of the house--so I realized it's not about us, its about the WAS and them wanting to be single or try to relive their youth or ditch responsibility or whatever motivations they have!!! Karen
Karen
