Please help me! Wife wants out! (5)

[sandi2]

Personally..........I still take Rhett Butler over James Bond any day! (lol)

Well....a girl! I just had a feeling, and I could just see you with a baby girl. You are so sensitive for a little girl's daddy.

Quote-"OM2 bought some baby clothes. W didn't want to show me as she thought it would upset me. I think I handled it well. W knows that it is one thing for OM to be inappropriately interested in her, but it is worse for OM to be inappropiately interested in my baby. W admits that it might be a bit too much."

Man, that ticked me off! He has some nerve, doesn't he? I am surprised that she even let you know about it, but since she did, I hope that means you are winning her across believing you to be the better man than the other two. You are remarkable in how you controlled yourself. Most men would have went bizerk.

Saffie brought up something that made me think of this when she was talking about how you would be there to support your W during the pregnancy, etc. The closer the time to delivery comes, the more she will need your support. And....when time for the actual birth of the baby....it will be you there to hold her hand and to coach her (is she going to birthing classes? You too?) Anyway, it is the H and W that will be in the delivery room when the baby is born......not the W and OM! That is such a special moment for the two of you to share seeing and holding that tiny baby girl for the first time. There will be a special bond there stronger than ever.

In the meantime.......as that belly gets bigger and she may start to spread wider as well as grow out front (lol), she may get to feeling ugly and so forth (a lot of women do), so just keep telling her how beautiful she is to you. You are the one to take care of her through the sickness. You are the one to massage her. When that bump gets really big and tight, she will want you to rub her belly with that lotion that prevent the skin from breaking and scaring so much. It makes the mommy feel better too. So, while you are doing that, you can talk in soft tones to the baby. Mommy will like that too. So, you have all the advantages right now, sweetie. You are the one home with her every night. The OM is out of there, he just doesn't know it yet. You are doing such a good job and are going to continue to do a great job (whether it's James or Rhett)until OM 1 or 2 won't stand a chance against you. After the Mommy and baby go home from the hospital, you will have even more of an opportunity to wait on your W and help with the baby, giving your W time to rest and recuperate over giving birth. I want to give one piece of warning here.....if you see anything that doesn't seem normal...for an example, if your W doesn't seem to appear to be as happy as a new mommy should be after having her first baby.....she needs to see her doctor about postpartum depression. It is very common and can be serious....and can last a long time with some. So, just watch for that, b/c we don't want her depressed and turning back to the OM after all that!!