Ahhhh, yes. I suppose I HAVE been expecting this to happen, even more so since I told him it would have to happen if he didn't want the D. I made it crystal clear to H that spending time together alone was going to be vital. It would be essential in reconnecting.

Well we went to the game that one time, but it's been nearly two months now with nothing else since then. I feel like all the time he spends with coworkers (outside of work) or all the times he chooses overtime or even to just go into work earlier than necessary is time that could have been spent doing something with me. Even if just once a week. I don't expect QT every day and night.

It is also difficult to plan things for us to do because he doesn't have a set schedule as far as work goes. Like today, he is scheduled to work at 5pm, but he chose to go in at 2:30pm. He left the house even earlier before that, around noon. There were 4 hours there that could've been for us. He could've even asked me to go with him to look at new car stereos. He could've included me on his trips to car dealerships when he was looking to get a Charger.

This all bugs me because he once told me, and I don't know if he really meant to tell me, "No one wants to hang out with me. I called so-and-so, blah blah blah, and they're all too busy." I was thinking, "Ummm....hello! Me here, your W. I would go and do such-and-such with you." He never asks me. I have asked before but was always rejected. He would say he just wanted to go by himself. Not exactly true if he was calling others to accompany him.

Ugh.

I'm at a loss right now as to what to do in my own sitch . Perhaps a night of fun is in order! That will be tomorrow at the ladies poker party ! Then it's back to work after that.

Thanks, Michelle. Your insight is extremely helpful. \:\)

Hope everyone has a great weekend!

Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell