H brought up doing something together Sunday. As you know, he mentioned doing something together while his Mom was here and she could watch the kids. My plan was not to say anything and see if he actually followed through. He did. He asked if I could come over tomorrow night to stay with the kids so that he and his Mom could go out and then we could do something after yoga Sunday morning. (He said he'd do yoga with me then.) I said sure. While we were out running an errand, Las Vegas came up in conversation. I remembered what a great trip we had there for our 5th anniversary. H went gambling twice this week, it's been a loooong time since I've played blackjack and I mentioned that maybe we could go to a local casino Sunday while his Mom was watching the kids. He said, "I've spent enough this week on gambling, I'll watch you play." And he was sincere about it. I replied maybe, but maybe he'd enjoy doing something more interactive for him. I liked that he would do that for me.
I'm a little sad right now. Didn't get to see my kids off to school this morning, but did get to spend some time with my son this afternoon. My daughter got out of school and they planned a bike ride on the trails. (H didn't ask if MIL could ride my brand-new expensive bike. I hope she doesn't ruin it at all. Seriously. She's not exactly respectful of other people's things.) I was a little sad because all I got to do is say Hi and hug her. Won't see her until tomorrow afternoon. I mentioned to my H that I wish he wouldn't have waited until I went off to work so I could spend a bit of time with her, it would have put them maybe 20 behind. I don't care if this was good dbing or not, I miss my kids.
My MIL and I had a good talk this morning. I was telling her how unfair I thought this whole thing was, that against my will I don't get to spend time with my kids. She told me it WAS unfair and that this whole situation is unfair and not right. She's commented on how it's affecting the kids and yesterday even said that "good Dads don't leave their kids." This seems to be a big change from her "you have to make yourself happy" view of earlier. She seemed irritated that her son won't do anything to work on us, didn't know that he was in IC. I'm very level-headed with her and just sharing. She's good for that in all honesty.
Gotta run to work. see y'all
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
