Ok. A phone call (which she abruptly hung up) which turned into a chat may be paraphrased thusly:
Me: I understand, now, that you don't want this marriage to work. I guess I respect that. But if that's the case I need you to find a place sooner than later. Her: I know that and I'm looking online every day. I don't need you reminding me every four days and being an a$$hole! [click!]
Later...
Me: You hung up. Her: You were being an a$$. * Me: Don't come home this weekend. Her: You can't say that. You have no right to tell me what to do. You cannot. Me: You're right. I can't. Her: I don't have plans so I will be home. Sorry. Me: I would LOVE to have you live there, if you wanted there to be an "us." Her: Too bad. Need a place to live. Me: I'll buy an air mattress. Her: I already said buy a futon.
Now, I feel like this is more of the same kind of conversation we have had before. I thought it was a different approach, I was cheerful on the phone. I feel like I'm treading water. And I honestly don't remember any mention of a futon?!? Am I completely not listening? And here I am following advice and it seems to be backfiring. Or am I looking at it askew? Help! I need a fresh set of eyes!
What's next, no conversations at all? Is that a reasonable approach?
*This is a word that gets my goat as much as "b*tch" gets hers. I hate it because, the way she uses it, it's like there's no comeback. Any defense is "being an a$$." It's like:"I'm not crazy!" "Yeah, that's exactly what a crazy person would say!"
I'm out of the house this evening. and all day tomorrow. and a little bit sunday.
