words of encouragement

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I have not been around here in awhile, but I wanted to let everyone know that it is possible to pull your marriage back from the brink. We are a long way from healed but we are both pulling in the same direction.

I got the bomb in Nov. of '06, brief time back together, although she didn't move home, last summer. Full steam ahead divorce up through Jan. '08. We had a pre-trial hearing and had met prior to just talk. It was very emotional and we ended up talking about how great it would be to get back together. She had even brought our wedding rings with her.

The paperwork has been pulled, she has moved home, the kids are doing well (The older girls were standoffish at first but have come around. S7 was happy from the get-go to have Mom home.),we have not reentered MC but are talking about it and keeping the lines of communication open.

I asked her recently why she decided to come home? She told me that I had held on for so long and seemed so sure that it could work, that she began to think she was making a mistake. Now that is obviously not the glowing "I love you" answer I had dreamed of hearing, but it did help me to understand that the hard part is just begining.

I wanted you all to know that it can work!

Keep your eye on the prize and your chin up.