Moving toward reconciliation... I think

[S.T. _I Made It!]

hey, new. I know how those bitterness feelings can creep up. Definitely looking at the NOW, and don't let yourself focus on what he didn't or did do before. We all must forgive and we HAVE to learn to forget. We can't forgive someone for something, only to bring it back up against them.


Now about getting your H to do what you want. You must be direct with men. Say, "I could really use your help with the leaves, would you be able to come help me right now?" I think being specific, like telling them WHEN you need it, and also asking them which gives them the power to choose. Guys don't like for us to tell them what to do. And NO expectations!


My H actually does things for me the same day I ask him now! when before, I would be nagging over and over. He also does so much more handyman work, and is more involved with the kids. I know that it is from what I learned and from me building him up as a H, father, and man.

Have you ever read For Women Only by Shaunti Feldham? This helped me understand my H as a man and what made me realize the things I was doing wrong. I think you would get a lot from it. This book and DR were the best books that I read during my sitch.

Since I read that book, it helped me realize how I was pushing my H down, instead of building him up. The more you build your H up, the more he will do things for you.

hope that helps!