WDID I commend you for coming here and opening yourself up. I agree with what all of the previous posters have put.

You and your H are both lucky that you may be getting a 2nd chance. You asked how long it will take for your feelings for OM to go away and for your feelings for H to return and there is no answer for that. If you sit and think about OM all day long, it will just take longer. Withdrawls from any "drug" are hard, but if you really want to "kick" you will. I think you are taking positive steps but listen to Puppy about Transparency, you have to cut off ALL contact in order for your M to get a fighting chance.

M:39
H:39
K:S14;D8
T:22yr
M:15yrs
S:12/28/07 EA/PA
3/14/08 OW preg
11/17/08 born
12/12/08 his
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Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option