I could definitely not afford a place of my own in addition to this place. Not in this town. I know that she was planning on living here until the lease is up at the end of June. That was before I kicked her out, though. Now I don't know.
Credit cards and bank stuff is not much of a concern. Actually, I never put her name ON the credit card until I decided not to go to Hawaii with her. She evidently always thought I was controlling of the finances and untrusting re: money. True! (in hindsight) Taking her off there is kind of a "more-of-the-same" for me. I'm watching the accounts like a hawk, though.
However, I have made a completely separate savings and checking account with a small emergency cushion to cover my own butt just in case she does something vindictive or dumb.
I'm thinking today I will ask her what progress she's made on a new place to live. Maybe "I realize now how serious you are about not wanting this marriage to work. I can respect that. If that's true you need to find someplace else sooner, not later." or "Don't come home this weekend." or "If that's true, I don't want to see you." (I'm certain that she is already planning on Friday/Saturday/Sunday nights over there. That was par for the course before Hawaii.)
I feel like I'm foolishly rambling when I post to this board. But I suppose that it's better to do that here than in a conversation with her! Thank you again!
Yesterday I spent a chunk of money on clothes. More than the old me would ever have been comfortable with! Tonight I'm getting a haircut, and I have plans with friends Sat and Sun. It feels kinda great!
This is where I am now. Any thoughts would really be appreciated. I hope someday to be able to help other people like me. Thanks!
