True. What's done is done. And true, I am by no means faultless. I was clingy, dependent, un-trusting because of some of our past life-hurdles. And I'm absolutely determined to fix myself. Grow for the better. She even gave me a list of things I need to work on but, since I was pleading and begging at the time, I didn't hear them all.
I plan on setting some goals for myself but I'm not so sure I know what kind of things I need to address. I'm hoping the books will clarify action-oriented goal setting. I know it's not just "Take that life-drawing class." and it's more "Agree with her without getting defensive" .... I think. Is that right?
Also, update: From the beginning she said that living with OM is not an option (but will never explain why. 4 nights a week is OK but 7 is not?) and that her brother is the only place that could work. Today she chatted "My brother's place won't work, so I and all my stuff will be coming home for the foreseeable future." I just said "Ok."
I'm going to be a friend and make home feel like a safe place to be. I'm worried that the very subject of the kick-out will be rocky terrain. I did it to say "I'm not putting up with this." But I'm sure she thinks I did it to hurt. Not a conversation I'm prepared for, I guess is what I'm saying.
