I agree that some marry down. it's just a simple fact that not everyone brings an equal amount to the table.
if you find your spouse limiting your personal growth due to their insecurities, using manipulation to control you, and cheating on you. chances are, you married down.
it's not a bad thing to realize that there are bad people out there. sometimes you don't find out they're bad till you marry them, lol. I think labeling behavior such as cheating, abuse, lying and worse as mental illness or mlc is the ultimate in using justification to rationalize one's situation.
yes virginia, there are some bad people out there..
Having lived though my W's MLC to - wonderful marriage and having seen my exW continue on down the MLC path 7 + years later....................The labels MLC and Mental Illness DO fit.
1st - I have not talked to a single post MLC person who did NOT admit to Depression - which IS classified as a Mental Illness.
2nd - You can swear the sky in Purple all day long - it doesn't make it purple. If you don't believe in MLC - why are you posting here?
I guess everyone who's ever been in a Mental Institution was just "faking it" for a vacation - right? Mental Illness is just justification for bad behavior..................so Charles Manson is perfectly sane - just a bad person?
Yes there are some people who will blame their bad behaviors on MLC or any number of things - but my exW never thought ANYTHING was wrong with anything she was doing and did NOT use any excuse other then she "fell in love" and wasn't happy in the M................Never did she blame MLC or Mental Illness.
This has been a turning point to a better M. In 25 years will either of us will remember much about this time? Because in 50 years neither of us will remember much of anything.
