Sounds to me like your refusing to sleep with him created a disturbance in him.
Disturbances always have after effects. Sometimes good, sometimes bad. Think of the aftermath of an earthquake if you will.
So you were nice to him when you declined his offer. I would suppose that you have created a good disturbance in him. It sounds like he doesn't like the thought of you moving on happily.
The whole sleeping with a wandering spouse thing always mystifies me. Some can do it, some cannot. Personally I would not be big on exposing my health to a spouse who could be doing who knows what with who knows who.
My take is that he has seen you moving forward with peace. It disturbed him. He reached out to you with an action he felt sure you would not resist - sleeping together. When you decline that, he is now quite confused. Now, in his mind, it's possible that you're not hanging on every little interaction with him.
I personally think that's a good thing.
And it's a REALLY good thing if it's something you did naturally, not something you did to provoke a response from him.
Stay the course. As long as he's away, as long as he's wanting to date others, he's not interested in the marriage. I always considered myself a package deal. You get all of me or none of me.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
