I need some advice...h and I are still together...but for the last almost 2 years, I just kept feeling like something was wrong, and sure enough, my inner voice was right..but even worse then what I had even suspected. here it goes..I kept feeling like h had at least a EF, well, I dont even know now what it was; he admitted to having feelings for a co-worker, which at the time he told me she was 24, h was 41 at the time. Ok, I still felt strange, so I still questioned him, he told me last week that she was the one who came onto him, I got angry with her (all the pain we went through as a family when he left us), so I told him I was going to find her myspace...I did. I wrote to her, telling her how much pain she had caused our family...the funny thing is this; my h had no idea what I wrote to her, and while we were waiting for her response, he said she would probibly say bad things about him...hum, I thought that was stange.. Well, she replyed back alright...she said she was being sexually harrassed by him (she was only 21 at the time, and my h was her boss), she said she cared and listened to him becasue he was her boss, but it was only one sided (she didnt ever have feelings for him), she went on to say that he would always call her (this is even when we were back together), she called the police for a restaining order but never filled it out), she was afraid of him and her family was too, and she even screamed at him when he last called her... Crazy huh??? I feel like I am re-living everything all over again....he is hurt she said all that about him, he still is saying that she is the one that hit on him and he refused. He even asked me one morning as we were waking up, if I thought he sexual harrassed her, I said, with you being her boss, and she is only 21 and you crossed lines by even flurting with her, yes that is considers sexual harrassment...he got very mad and defensive...which he does alot of that these days.. I dont know what to believe. Sex is alot with us, has been since the 3 weeks after he left. But he has a hard time keeping an erection, and he wants more and more excitement in bed....he wants me to do more daring things; he says that he wants me to be submissive...he tells me he is very much in love with me and will never leave me again... What do all of you think of this? I am still in shock, I have worked sooooooooo hard on my marriage, and now I feel I dont know if I even know the man I am married too???
