I haven't posted for a while for various reasons but am now in need of some advice.
Here's a quick summary of my sitch
Aug 07 - H give me the I never loved you speech-not been happy for years-had a EO going on with some-one at work- H moved out that day-came back a few days later to tell the children-basically was a pure evil b******. Compared me to the OW-planned on having reversal of vasectomy to start a family with her blaa blaa blaa - I don't think any of you need a crystal ball to see where this is going.
Sept 07- Found DB - started applying the principles and got my dignity back. I think around this time H was dumped by OW I spoke to DB coaches who kept me on track with goals which helped me with the bigger picture during the dark days when I could see no light at the end of the tunnel
around Nov started to see a change in H's behaviour-b-came flirty around me and interested in the changes he saw in me-anyway long story short - we have been sleeping together at least once a month since nov 07.
H always goes dark after event and distant for a few days-than TM me to say what a mistake it was and it should never happen again
Meanwhile we are friendly enough about childcare arrangements and general chit-chat.
I treat his mood swings and rollercoaster emotions with slight bemusement or indifference.
He say's he is jealous of my ability to move forward-asks me things like how can you be so happy?
2 weeks ago he asks me if I mind if he starts dating again? Although hurt I said that we both have to move on
Last weekend he asked me round to his place for a few drinks and usually we end up in bed As Michelle says 'change what doesn't work'
So I reminded him that he always regrets it and that it hurts me that he regrets it so I declined.
He sent a TM saying that he was confused as he still wanted me but I obviously didn't want him any more!!
We havn't had any R talks since Feb-he backs right away at the mention of it
I confused now as I'm not sure if I did the right thing??
I would be grateful if any-one could give me their opinion on it
This is harder than anything I have ever done in my life and sometimes I feel so detached that I wonder if I do want it then other times I feel so passionate about saving my marriage- does any-one else question themselves ?
