I was getting so angry at my H yesterday that I sent him a text that if the kids wanted to talk to him I would let them call him. He came back with "are you saying I cant call the kids anymore?" I didnt reply. That is not what I said. Then he texted me and said that to his knowledge he had never not talked to me. I just replyed that to my knowledge I had never hurt him like he hurt me. Didnt hear anything else from him after that.
I have to say after yesterday I sat down and sent my H an email. I had to tell him in that email what I felt I couldnt say to him directly without getting upset.
Basically I told him that I did not want to talk to him. I told him that if he chose to be with the OW, that I couldnt be anything more to him than the mother to his children. I did use some of your words LIN. I told him that if he ever wanted to be with me he would have alot of work to do to win me back. I deserved to be cherished and not have him playing with my emotions. I have a heart....
I have to say that I wonder why someone would want to be with a woman that he made these comments about:
"I feel sorry for the guy that ends up with her" "I have to warn that guy about her" "I feel sorry for her son"
Should we feel "sorry" for him then? I wonder if someone needs to "warn" him about her? Should we feel sorry for his kids?
Why is love so blind?
Wouldnt you think that when that "newness" and butterfly feelings wear off, well all those things that bothered him when they were fighting would show up again? He wont see what he was saying until its too late for him. He is losing us more and more everyday.
Last night I had his daughter call him and tell him that I was working late and not going to be able to take our son to TKD. He didnt even offer to take him hiself. What did he do? Went to the OW's son's ball game. He didnt even ask to speak to his son when on the phone with my D. After calling for 2 days and me not answering and him not getting to talk to the kids and complaining about it, he didnt even ask to speak to our S.
This morning instead of waiting for him to call the kids. My son wanted to call his dad. He wanted to ask if he was coming to his game tonight. Our D didnt want to talk to him. Usually she does and my son doesnt. I think my d is going to have issues with her dad.
I have realized that he has no real connection with his kids. Its sad.
He is coming to the game tonight. That should be fun! Im sure he is not happy that I am treating him the way I am now. I will only say hello if he does first tonight. Then I will find someone else to sit with.
Talk about uncomfortable.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
