GL, thanks for your honesty, her mother is at the beach and has been all week, her mother asked her to go last weekend but ballgames came up so she didn't go. I have done some snooping and it got me nowhere.
I assure you GL, if and when she gets involved with someone else, I am done, that is my last straw, I will fight the fight until then. I know I say this now and that mindset may change but I will fight the fight that's worth fighting in my mind.
Yes it is hard to believe someone would leave without having someone to run to. I was an a$$ in our marriage, I felt like many on here that my M was set in stone. I never thought I would be in the position I am in today and for that I am now paying for it dearly. She told me I wasn't a happy person, she got tired of the put downs that I would say, she got tired of me not being happy, she thought I wasn't happy with her. She got tired of always being the one to try and to put it in her words right now she is just too tired to try anymore.
GL. as long as no other person comes in the picture, I feel that I have some sort of chance to save my M. As you have read my posts, I have listed some of my positives that I am going off of as far as the house, financials not being split, and no seperation papers between us. Although I do know in NC you are really legally seperated once you stop living together. With these positives, I have to believe that W is holding out to see the changes in me and see if they will stick. She stated early on in this process that she promised our boys that the day I left that they would never have to go through that type of day again, I believe she is going to make darn sure that if and when the day that I am able to go home she will know in her mind the time is right and the changes are there to stay.
I realized last week also that one thing she has been telling me for a long time was to change and be happy, stop being ill and down all the time. Well up until last week, for the past 5 months I have not been able to show her happiness because of this mess I am in. I have finally realized that I have to change this, she is looking for this, you and others helped me see this, I have not paid it any attention thinking I am suppose to be acting down, that is not what she is wanting to see, she told me I was not a happy man and the past 5 months I proved her right.
Thanks for stopping in, sorry for the long post.
Ping..my wife said the same exact things to me..I was not happy..etc..to the letter.
