h4h, maybe you should tickle her curiosity, 180 style. I did so many 180 that I don't know anymore at what side I am looking at. All of them completely ignored, until today - today I was listening to some classical music, an Opera, something very much not "me", when she called me at the phone, she WAS shocked - "since when are you listening to this kind of music???" - I said it is something I always loved, and unfortunately I neglected this part of me in the last few years, but now I am enjoying my old self. She got immediately curious in how I am doing - she even said a bit bothered "you are doing TOO well". I have no illusion, you know that my sitch has very little chances, but it was good to see her a bit "shocked/interested". In a great book about seduction I read that you have to tickle her curiosity, she needs space for fantasies, you give her a brick and she envision a whole castle. This is what happened with my W and OM - he said some crap about donating once is wage or whatever and in her mind he became the greatest philanthropist. I agree with you about stop snooping - when I do it it kills me.
