Thank you, Jeff, for pointing Michelle my way. :-) Good advice (from both of you :-) )
And thank you all for your advice, understanding and compassion. I was hoping to type some more tonight when the house quieted down but the problem is that once it settles down here, it hits me how tired I am. lol One of the best pieces of advice my mother gave me was: sleep when the baby sleeps. :-)
I read the thread on What Newcomers Need to Hear. Amazing stuff. Some of the posts made light bulbs go off in my head and gave me some good "Aha!" moments. Sometimes I can see clearly how things are playing out and then other times, my emotions and my own baggage of rejection create a lot of static and noise.
One thing I find helpful that I've done off and on for our years together (but obviously, not often enough) is to mentally step outside of my role of wife/lover and look at him from the vantage point of best friend. Friendship is what started our relationship so I try to view him as a friend would. Helps me a lot.
Well, that's all for now. My brain isn't working and I need to sleep. Our days start too early. :-)
