She was surprised a little while ago when she mentioned that I was "waiting for her to make up her mind". I corrected her, that there is a BIG difference between being "open to reconciliation" and "waiting for someone".
I wish I had been more clear with my H about that - I don't like to think of this in terms of "strategy", but do feel I made a big error in how I communicated my choice to give him space. Once in MC I blurted out that I was being left hanging and later in a talk about D, I said that I wasn't putting him on a deadline and was willing to give him the time/space he seems to need now. Since then, he has been even more distant and made no moves toward me. What you said to your W allowed you to keep your own power and may have subtly shown that she will have work to do to get you back. That is a much more healthy/attractive balance for R.
me: 47 H: 48 he has 2 grown sons M 1995(my 1st, his 3rd) hit iceberg 6/07 S 9/26/07 before now
