OT, you are right CB showed terrible judgment indeed. The last thing a beautiful, single woman wants to do is latch onto the pain of a man going through a separation. It don't take no genius to figure out where that will go! I think that when I told her it touched her "thingy" which was still hanging around since her divorce. She went through Hell, and to hear someone else, who she obviously liked, was about to go through it too touched something in her thus the tear filled eyes and deep empathy. At one point, I thought she had decided to leave me alone and I had actually reluctently accepted that would be the case but just then she approached me unexpectedly and ended up guiding me into the park for a long walk. After a months break she began suggesting coffee and, in fact, it was mostly her near the end. So she was in a mild way the pursuer near the end. I was apparently more aware of her R than she was. I think something just suddenly hit her between the eyes and she realized this was going to a bad place, felt guilty and maybe embarassed and thus ditched my ass in panic. So I'm glad to hear you aren't a fan , neither was my shrink who had some pretty harsh words about CB's behaviour. Shrink also said that I was giving CB a pretty clear message when I arranged my evening so that I would be elsewhere and nowhere near her when the kids class ended. I was saying I'm not taking this treatment from you, I'm not waiting around, I'm outta here! That was me respecting myself. Why watch someone drive by you each night without so much as a glance or wave if you can be doing something else, so I'm doing a group bible study...it's workin' for me. Again, I don't have some big hate on for CB, she fell into something she shouldn't for her own reasons. I hope that she really looks at the R she's in and decides for herself whether this is where she wants to be and if so, takes better care of it in the future. Thanks Tom for the input, your support has always been there for me and I empathize with how it feels to have been the giver year in and year out, but I like you, have learned that you must receive to make a R. My STBX wanted to get over and over, better and better but couldn't see how giving of herself will actually create the love she so desperately needed. You must give to actually feel love yourself. Wow, that's deep, eh!
Btw, my above post sounds like I'm laying it all on her, uh uh. I played my cards to get that attention too and I loved every bit of it. I sure didn't walk away knowing "the bad place" was possible. So, just to clarify!
I think that when I told her it touched her "thingy" which was still hanging around since her divorce. She went through Hell, and to hear someone else, who she obviously liked, was about to go through it too touched something in her thus the tear filled eyes and deep empathy. At one point, I thought she had decided to leave me alone and I had actually reluctently accepted that would be the case but just then she approached me unexpectedly and ended up guiding me into the park for a long walk. After a months break she began suggesting coffee and, in fact, it was mostly her near the end. So she was in a mild way the pursuer near the end. I was apparently more aware of her R than she was. I think something just suddenly hit her between the eyes and she realized this was going to a bad place, felt guilty and maybe embarassed and thus ditched my ass in panic. So I'm glad to hear you aren't a fan 
, neither was my shrink who had some pretty harsh words about CB's behaviour. Shrink also said that I was giving CB a pretty clear message when I arranged my evening so that I would be elsewhere and nowhere near her when the kids class ended. I was saying I'm not taking this treatment from you, I'm not waiting around, I'm outta here! That was me respecting myself. Why watch someone drive by you each night without so much as a glance or wave if you can be doing something else, so I'm doing a group bible study...it's workin' for me. Again, I don't have some big hate on for CB, she fell into something she shouldn't for her own reasons. I hope that she really looks at the R she's in and decides for herself whether this is where she wants to be and if so, takes better care of it in the future. 