It is definitely more of the same from W. As for talking w/ her, she won't do it. I'm thinking along your lines that she wants a "record" of things, but sometimes I think she forgets this is a record and thus writes and rants anyway. I'm pretty sure she feels confident that her angry accusations will make her look good and my non-responses are equal to admission of guilt. I'm not so sure the normal world will see it that way.
Another theory of mine is that if she sends texts and e-mails, I can't tell how much she's been drinking. I know she drinks too much and I'm now convinced she has an alcohol problem due to her irrational thought and action patterns. I've been worried about her drinking in the past and I'm pretty sure one of the reasons she's resisting change is she doesn't want to stop drinking her liter of wine every day.
Oh, well. I can't control that and I am getting better at realizing it. I do find it interesting to see that she claims I was the one who was always getting angry and trying to control her, but as you so correctly point out, who now is calm and who is controlling? It is an interesting scenerio to watch unfold indeed.
Thank you for saying you admire my strength. I don't feel so strong some days and I do ok on others. I still feel I can be stronger, but I also do appreciate the compliment and support.
Keep checking in and I'll keep you posted as to how I'm doing.