LetGoHurtAnger, I will offer what advice I can at this stage. I am a HDH. In fact, as I have come to understand this aspect of myself better, I have learned that these HD/LD labels are really not that useful - but that's another post.
I can totally understand that you are full of resentment right now, and that you perhaps feel like "punishing" your husband for his "neglect". That of course will achieve absolutely nothing. You need to start thinking of answers to these questions:
(1) What started the downward spiral - what do you think, what does he think?
(2) What did you do to confront/solve the issue?
(3) How did he react? What explanation/response did he make?
(4) What roughly was the timeframe? You have a young child - that is very likely to have been a factor - yes?
(5) What does he mean by working on this?
(6) Are there other underlying issues in either of your lives - other family/work/money pressures?
(7) What are your respective pastimes/hobbies?
Take a deep breath, and fill in the blanks as objectively as you can - how would an impartial observer of your marriage answer?
I will check in in another day or so.
Strong&Alive
"A man can be destroyed but not defeated" - from The Old Man and the Sea, by Ernest Hemingway.
Which I take to mean that every man has within him a spirit of relentlessness and optimism. Its already there; he just has to cultivate it.
