I think we are in a rut

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I guess I am a CD, Sara is a hot dog (great analogy BTW). What are you Kris?

For some reason hot dog sounds funnier...but I guess I would be a video game. H didn't get rid of anything....just bored with it.

Perhaps H perceives your WOA as insincere because he had to tell you that he wasn't getting enough compliments/praise/appreciation from you, like my H told me. He felt he shouldn't have to say anything, that I should've already known. Ugh, there's that mindreading thing again.

You are probably right GF, but I don't know how to fix that at this point. It has probably been..oh...seven years since he told me this.

Let's forget about telling our Hs how much me appreciate and admire them for a sec and think about how we can SHOW them this.

That's just it...I do show him...he wants to be TOLD. I would rather be shown, he would rather be told. I even found an old email from when we first started dating where he was saying that I didn't TELL him these things, and I responded back telling him I didn't realize I had to because I was doing all these things to SHOW him how much I appreciate him and care about him. Wow, wish I would have known about the 5LL back then. That was the first and only time he has ever told me that and ever since then it has been seen as insincere.

I guess I need to be aware of how I deliver these compliments though. Maybe it is all in the delivery.

I do want to cook him dinner on one of our future dates (assuming they ever happen lol).

I think this is a good idea. Cooking together was always a good thing for H and I.