Since my D.. I have taken the idea of surrounding myself with people and relationships that are positive and healing yet diverse and also a sense of learning... about myself and also about the people I have met. Many of these peeps have been female.. some are not.. however, for the most part I sense that I am making or have developed some pretty strong friendships.
It is very nice to hear from someone acceptance, empathy and understanding about me. The genuine kindness and caring !
Equally, it is just as validating to be able to do the same (for me) for someone else. So long as we are on the same "level".. if that makes sense to you ?
I have been able to avoid the "one way street " syndrome.. which pretty much summed up the 15 yrs of my M. It was a give and take.. but mostly a take from the other side. And obviously, I am not blameless there.. as I let the taking occur. Much like your sitch.. but in a very different way.
YOU will begin to meet many CB's now .. each one in a different manner will help you understand the things you need to understand about yourself some in a positive way and others in another way.. your history.. and your present. Take care not to latch on to any of them too quickly on an emotional level... just listen, feel, and learn for a while ?
Enjoy the feeling of getting off the coaster and moving on to the bumper cars.
