Tough Love through a Letter-Advice needed

[cagzmom]

Tipper you are at a really hard stage and reading your post - well I feel like I am reading my own.

There are things that you DO need to do to gain back the self respect that you do deserve. The letter was your attempt at taht...but also you grasping...and I know that level well.

If you truly want him to gain respect for you - and stop walking all over you then start with the little things. CHANGE THE LOCKS....as long as you are not living under teh same house you have that right. AND you dont have to tell him. It is no longer his place- he left..and you deserve for him to respect that boundary. You do it NOT to prove a point - but to FOLLOW through with a boundary...

I have read lots of Nutty Chicks threads...I dont believe she has thrown in the towel by filing. We CANT do things to get a reaction anymore.....we do things for US. And that is where you will get. Doing things for YOU not because of him, not to get back at him...none of it just plain FOR YOU.