Well Being Me, CB is a part of what Tom refers to as the "thingy". It's all wrapped up together and it gets pretty confusing trying to separate what is truly the individual situation and what is the thingy! OT's right in that CB was my drug of choice and that is why it was probably good that she ditched me, I have to now take care of my own hurt and pain in a way that will help me develop as a person and not as someone dependent on another to do that for him. We all know that just ends up in another crappy, been there, done that R! CB was wonderful to talk to cuz she never said "why don't you do this...." instead she would say things like "you must be in so much pain right now" She went directly to the feeling versus the practical aspect of the sitch, which is so tempting to do. She saw ME, not the sitch. That meant something to me. I want to be able to hold onto the really nice things she did for me despite whatever the appropriateness of the R was. Once I said to her "You don't have to listen to me but you always do, we haven't known each other long enough that I have any right to expect that of you, but you do listen and you do care, that means something to me" I meant that. It was not the R that was wrong, it was the timing and the context. So enough of memory lane, thanks for checking in and, oh yes, for caring!
