TREE- about to be separated-Kids

[Broken Tree]

Well I think we are about to be separated. I am activly looking at new places. I am no longer BROKEN TREE but a much better and stronger Tree. I am here only for me and my kids, that's it. My W is stuck in a miserable MLC place and I can not help her anymore. She is lieing to her support group about everything and abusing my kids and me. Things are getting really messed up now. S12 would not get out of bed yesterday morning so W tried to drag him out by his nose, ears and cheek. He said she kicked him in the nuts. There was blood inside his nose. He is really upset and says he hates his Mom. I have a recording of the conversation between them afterwords. The kid had to sleep in my bed due to his fear of his Mom. I have an appointment with my L today.

[InLikeFlynn]

Call the police!!!

[Edge]

OMG!! That is completely out of line. If she is treating your kids like that, you need to take them with you when you leave. That is not safe for them. Your leaving is going to make her more angry, and they will be the only ones there for her to take it out on.

[Broken Tree]

I was asked today:

Where is all of her anger coming from? Just your situation? Nothing else going on in her life right now?

Anger: It is part of her personality. She is always angry. What is escalating the anger? It could be many things:

1) Her decision and her knowing it is wrong because of the advice she is getting is skewed

2) She has made a decision to ripe apart our family and now has to live with it.

3) The kids hate her and want nothing to do with her. (take a f---ing hint)

4) I am standing in the way of her being fun Sally.

5) I am standing in the way of her dating OM?

6) I am way more stable through this whole thing then she is.

7) My kids love my ass.

8) Her VERY comfortable life is going to change very soon, very much.

9) She still loves me but has started this process and will not turn back because it will make her the fool and make her the liar.

10) combo of all the above.

Make sense?

Tree

[cat03]

How sad, using the kids as her punching bag to get her anger out. Hope all goes well with the L, in the meantime make sure s12 avoids angry W by getting him up yourself if he isn't a morn person and has a hard time. Prayers your way))))))

[C_K]

Tree

Thats not good , You have the right idea . For now protect yourself and your Kids , Number 1 priority.

Wishing you well

Dave

[sgctxok]

What do you really really want?

[whatisis]

BT, you need to sit down with W and say that this behaviour is completely unacceptable and if it happens again you WILL call the police or that you will take the children and leave. End of story! I did that with my W one time when I came home and found her slapping my D who was also 12 at the time. My language was not very kind, I said "if you ever touch my D again I will call the police...are you f@cking crazy?" She has not laid a hand on her since.
Btw, I think all your reasons for her anger are probably right on, unhappy people do unhappy things. You can't help her so protect yourself and your kids.

[Broken Tree]

Right on man. I told her exactly that. There is only one thing in this world that matters and it is my kids. I love them so much it is crazy!

She is so miserable I can't wait to get away from her. I feel so bad for her and wish I could help.

Had a great time with a buddy from Hong Kong tonight.

Great Meal, Inteligent Convo, insights and cigars.

Life is great!

I love to GAL. I am really turning the corner!

Thanks for your thoughts.

[whatisis]

I hear ya, BT. I stayed in the cesspool of misery I was living in for years and one of the main reasons was that I couldn't bare the thought of not being able to tuck my babies in each and every night. Our kids are our blessings. Stay the course, Strong Tree!