You need to forgive yourself first off. Knowone is perfect, we all have flaws, you need to deal with why you did it and be happy that its in the past.
My H was only on once in awhile. He actually was able to look at it 24/7 because of his job, but it was enough that if effected our Relationship.
He turned to it because he didn't feel he was getting attention from me, and that is partly true. Im not an over affectionate person, and he is. He has a high drive and I don't, so this was a problem. But it was communication that was to our detriment. Instead of talking to me about it he turned to porn... so It was both our faults. I generally don't have a problem with it, I don't "like" it, but men are visual creatures and ALOT of men look at it. So really unless it is effecting your relationship I don't really have a problem with it. But because of what happend with us and what he did with his own picture, he is not aloud to have that up on our computer at ALL.
So I guess what I am saying is, you have to find out what the root of the problem was or you to turn to it... Cheating is not the answer of course no matter what happend in your R, but it does happen, and that is the effect.
I hope for you and your children's sake you are able to work through this and get back together with your W.
has she told you why she has turned to this other person?
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
