R2C - I don't believe I need a religion to know right from wrong and to know to forgive. Growing up with religious parents, I know all the church stuff, but I don't want to get into a religious debate, I'm very much each to their own. My own believes are very straight forward.
Be nice to people treat others as you want to be treated yourself Don't hurt others Be prepared to forgive (got better at that with age) Wrong and right, black and white or differences of opinions as long a your not hurting anyone. As long as you are not hurting others, do what you like it's a free world and we are all equal
Probably very badly put as i'm rubbish at explaining myself but hopefully you get me.
I admit i'm not sure if I can forgive...yet.. but that is as were still in mid flow and can't see any real remorse or returning to the R from W. Everyday seems more like a MLC to me, the desperate need to go out at every opportunity, but I'm being her friend at the moment. In a lot of ways that seems real weird and as if I'm accepting what's happening and she can do what she wants, but it's more that I cannot control it so not fighting it and making it worse.
I've no idea where were going, but taking one day at a time. Going to add some more GALs in coming weeks and see how C goes.
I've read a few posts and see some people try the strong LRT that will go either way and I hope I don't get there but do feel slightly used at the moment and that my W is getting all she wants. If I left, she would not have the support that she needs, the finances I would provide or the same freedom to carry on. However, she is stubborn and I do think that could backfire and I really want to be at home for my kids so that is a few months off unless something big happens.
Thanks for all responses as always. I love this site, it's helped me loads.
I asked before, but don't think there was an answer. Anyone one still here (Sandi ?) that has been through all this, could you add links to your story so I can see the whole thing from start to finish ?
