Sorry you are going through this terrible time, it must be dreadfully difficult to try and make sense of it all.
This isn't piecing.
This is tolerating bad behavior and not setting boundaries.
This is living in eternal hope that something will change on it's own IF you can only be patient enough.
This is living in fear of pushing him into facing his issues and making him leave again.
This is settling for second best, and being fed the crumbs when you deserve the whole pie.
Can I please ask you to be terribly selfish right now, and do something that makes YOU happy?
Can you stop worrying about him and start worrying about you and your mental health and how all of this BS is affecting you?
Can you make a decision as to what YOU are going to do at the end of this month when nothing has changed and you are still in the same place having the same conversations?
I am worried about you.
(((hugs)))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.