Heartsick Over The Big D

[cat03]

He does NOT want to think of you, it will remind him of his past mistakes

He has decided he wants to involve ow in his life, she is not the problem, HE is.

You CAN train your thoughts, you can redirect them. Do I think of ow every day? yes I do, but with less intensity/emotion. Realize, admit, that ow thoughts consume you, and realize how harmful they are. Right now the ow brain path in your brain is very deep, by default you think of them. You CAN redirect your thoughts, for a while they will resume their usual path: H, D, ow, but herd them back to healing and positive stuff. Eventually your thoughts wont linger on the bad stuff as often. Control your thoughts instead of letting the thoughts control you. This comes from a person who uncovered an A complete with phone records, naked picts, letters and others which burnt in my mind for what seemed like ages.

You can do it.