My H told me the same thing just after the bomb dropped that he did not want to betray himself or OW, that his standards was much higher that I was getting fat and not taking care of myself and well his plaything was just his and any 40 year old man's fantasy and any married woman's nightmare and that maybe he is just that shallow and selfish, but I don't know, he maybe, only time will tell I guess. But now he says he has to be with me and he'll get angry if I were to say no to him. I'll just be ready if there is a next tme I will not be blindsided again.
M 45 H 42
D 26 D 18 S 16
Married 19 years Together 24 years ILYBNILWY 1/7/08 OW 10/11/07 ended affair 3/14/08 came home 3/14/08 last contacted ow 3/17/08 4/19/08 trying to piece marriage back.
