Lovnlrn~ welcome, this is a hard place to be, but you will find all sorts of wonderful people here Never worry or feel guilty about how long your posts are, it helps those of us who are trying to offer advice to you get a better idea of your sitch. It also helps you to get some of your bottled up feeling/emotions off your chest...this is deffinitly the place to do that!
As for your sitch, a) detatch, detatch, detatch! as hard as it is to do, let him come to you, the more you persue him, the further you will push him out the door, b) get the books DR/DB, great stuff in there, also other authors have wonderful stuff on R/M Gary Chapman 5 love languages, Patricia Love, and John Gray just to name a few, c) something new that the DB coaches have thrown out there are the 4 steps to reconciling a M, you may see them floating around on the boards, it's good stuff...1. defuse negative emotions (time and space) 2.friendship (communicate like good friends) 3. Romance and dating (MC would start here) 4. reconcilliation
I wish you all the best, this is a great place to start. As long as you have love in your heart, anything is possible.
(((hugs))) christarn
H-32 Me-29 T-10years M-4yr (10/04) Me- WAW 1/07 I filed for D 2/07 D put on hold 5/07 H re-files for D 9/08 WOW! trying MC 10/08
"Work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody is watching, love like you've never been hurt!"
Never worry or feel guilty about how long your posts are, it helps those of us who are trying to offer advice to you get a better idea of your sitch. It also helps you to get some of your bottled up feeling/emotions off your chest...this is deffinitly the place to do that!
