Pretty good night at the ball field. I helped with the practice for S10's team. Got to play with S7 during some of the other practice while they were warming up then of course his other friends arrived and they had to go play wall ball. W sat with the other parents on the benches. Didn't even get to speak to her until after the ballgame was over and that was nothing more than "how are you" and "have a good night" and she told me that she got an email from S10's teacher about him talking too much in class. I told him he needed to straigten up and not be getting in trouble.
All in all, a pretty good night, I didn't look her way but a few times during the practice and I enjoyed myself out on the field with some good laughs and coaching the other kids.
Pretty good night at the ball field. I helped with the practice for S10's team. Got to play with S7 during some of the other practice while they were warming up then of course his other friends arrived and they had to go play wall ball. W sat with the other parents on the benches. Didn't even get to speak to her until after the ballgame was over and that was nothing more than "how are you" and "have a good night" and she told me that she got an email from S10's teacher about him talking too much in class. I told him he needed to straigten up and not be getting in trouble.
All in all, a pretty good night, I didn't look her way but a few times during the practice and I enjoyed myself out on the field with some good laughs and coaching the other kids.
Good Ping-way to back your W up about the email on S10. She saw good teamwork in that. I would like to be inside her head. I bet the gears are grinding. You are doing an excellent job my friend.
Good job! Nice way to co-parent and support your wife. Keep up the excellent work! I am really keeping you in my thoughts and prayers! You seem like a really nice guy and you want your family. Something to be admired.
With no talks on the R, how is she doing on the visitation issue with the boys? While I realize you are working to repair, please do me one favor. Document every min. you spend with your boys. You may or may not need it, but please do me that one favor. Document and go to all Dr' appointments, request that she lets you know about them. Document and go to all school functions. If you can slip out at lunch, go have lunch with your children at school- document that. This is the Guardian Ad Litem in me that's been through 5 custody battles with an ex. I always wanted joint- he continued to fight for sole- winning it at one point. When a child has two loving, capable parents there is NO reason why joint custody should not be the norm.... but most of the time it's not. If it comes down to you needing more advice, let me know. I have a list of strong father's rights attorney that I can send you in your area. Not to get off the subject of Dbing, because that's the main goal- but I always warn good fathers to please document everything. Hopefully you will be able to toss it down the road!
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M: 39 H: 40 D: 12 S: 9 Married: 10 years Together: 11 years Dday- March 14th, 2008 Bomb-I don't love you-Easter 2008
Currently-living in same home, slowly working back towards a marriage.
Pretty good night at the ball field. Didn't even get to speak to her until after the ballgame was over and that was nothing more than "how are you" and "have a good night" and she told me that she got an email from S10's teacher about him talking too much in class. I told him he needed to straigten up and not be getting in trouble.
All in all, a pretty good night, I didn't look her way but a few times during the practice and I enjoyed myself out on the field with some good laughs and coaching the other kids.
PERFECT......... Birdie, par, par.....
I know you are still wondering what is going on in her head. This is natural. Do NOT ask her anything. Keep on this routine and plan. Stay happy. Enjoy yourself around the kids. Enjoy YOUR hobbies. Be mature....
Wait a few days and follow up on S 10's problem in school. Ask her if she has heard anything more on the issue. Let her respond. If she doesn't already know, then tell her you had a "little talk" with him. Follow up with him on this issue too. Explain to him what you know and that you are going to keep following up to make sure he is following "orders" from you. This is a good chance for you to be the "disciplinarian" here and take that role from her. Take charge. Be the leader.
Who knows.. She may even say it is no big deal now...
I have been following your thread. Sometimes it is best that when a golfer is making swing changes, that he is just allowed to play and not think about too many things at once.
Keep up the great new attitude. It will help you much in the long run.
Good job! Nice way to co-parent and support your wife. Keep up the excellent work! I am really keeping you in my thoughts and prayers! You seem like a really nice guy and you want your family. Something to be admired.
With no talks on the R, how is she doing on the visitation issue with the boys? While I realize you are working to repair, please do me one favor. Document every min. you spend with your boys. You may or may not need it, but please do me that one favor. Document and go to all Dr' appointments, request that she lets you know about them. Document and go to all school functions. If you can slip out at lunch, go have lunch with your children at school- document that. This is the Guardian Ad Litem in me that's been through 5 custody battles with an ex. I always wanted joint- he continued to fight for sole- winning it at one point. When a child has two loving, capable parents there is NO reason why joint custody should not be the norm.... but most of the time it's not. If it comes down to you needing more advice, let me know. I have a list of strong father's rights attorney that I can send you in your area. Not to get off the subject of Dbing, because that's the main goal- but I always warn good fathers to please document everything. Hopefully you will be able to toss it down the road!
Both of my sons played the National Junior Golf Club tour local here in NC and some US Kids golf events, son10 qualified and played the World Championship last year with US Kids in Pinehurst. It won't be long before he will be beating me. He plays our course we live on from the senior tees and shoots in the 70's, my S7 plays shorter tees and also shoots in the 70's. They are both very talented on the golf course but have put that aside since the S. Baseball is taking their time right now.
No, W has not relinquished any extra time with the kids right now nor have I pushed the issue anymore. It always started an argument so I gave in, I pick them up from school once a week and get them every other weekend along with seeing them a few times during the week at practices and games.
Thanks for dropping back in GL, I thought you had went away. I really appreciate the advice you have given me over the last 2 weeks, it really is helping me look at things differently and seeing them from a different side. I hope you will stick around and continue to help me through this, I feel much more better off than I did a few weeks ago.
Still making lots of pars, hoping to score some birdies along the way and then set the pace with a bunch of eagles to wrap this tournament up.
W is heading to the beach tomorrow, I assured her I would take care of the boys and they will be fine, we will make both kids practices and games this weekend along with help from other parents. She will be calling to check in on them both Friday and Saturday night. Should be a good weekend.
Ping, You are doing a great job! Your positive PMA comes through in your posts. This weekend will be a great opportunity to show your W that you can handle things with your boys. When she calls, sound positive and upbeat and let her know that everything is great. Good luck to you!
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
Thanks for dropping back in GL, I thought you had went away. I really appreciate the advice you have given me over the last 2 weeks, it really is helping me look at things differently and seeing them from a different side. I hope you will stick around and continue to help me through this, I feel much more better off than I did a few weeks ago.
Still making lots of pars, hoping to score some birdies along the way and then set the pace with a bunch of eagles to wrap this tournament up.
W is heading to the beach tomorrow, I assured her I would take care of the boys and they will be fine, we will make both kids practices and games this weekend along with help from other parents. She will be calling to check in on them both Friday and Saturday night. Should be a good weekend.
Ping, you have a good chance to score really well this weekend. I know you'll do a great job and your W will come back and there will have been no problems...if those boys have fun and tell your W about it...major points I think.
