Piecing or NOT....III

[butterflymom]

I too think you should make him move out if he doesn't meet the 45 day agreement, but I know it's easier for us to sit here and tell you that than it is for you to do it.

It's tough to tell them to move out when you fear that they may not ever come back.

You have to get to a place where you no longer fear it if you get a divorce.

Where you no longer fear him moving out again.

I personally think you just need to get pi$$ed off and tell him you love him and want to be married, but not like this.

That he's welcome to come back as soon as she is out of the apartment and you two have written her a NC letter TOGETHER.

Until that time he needs to find a new place. Period. No if ands or buts. No excuses. She needs to be gone, or your gone from this house.

I know - easy for me to write. not so easy to do when he's standing there looking at you telling you exactly what you want to hear.

Not so easy to do when you want so badly to believe him, that you are willing to try it just "one more time"

it sucks. I hate it for you.

BFM