But, to allay an fears from now on that anyone may have I will say that I am NOT beaten. And I will not give up on ME or my children.
Amen to that my friend, you are NOT beaten. You are a warrior my brother! You are a man!
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'Standing' for her is not an option. She has to 'stand' for herself. She has to decide once and for all that she is 'in' or 'out'.
Okay, I get it, you're right on that point.
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Marriage shouldn't BE this hard. You shouldn't HAVE to be "still in the battle" all the time. If your relationship with your spouse constantly requires you to be 'on guard' then something is wrong.
Right on all three counts! Ask any long term M person and the majority will tell you they've had struggles. Periods of togetherness, and periods of distance and separation. It's an ebb and flow. M people grow and change, and if we are not constantly "on guard" we just might miss the opportunity to recognize the growth and change in our S. Eventually, we grow apart. The more time goes by the more I recognize how the M evolves, never staying the same, always evolving and requiring adjustment.
You're a good man Frank. I want you fired up! Don't let any person cause you to believe you are unworthy of love, peace and joy. That your W is unable to have good feelings about you right now is no reflection on you. It is HER sickness, HER failure. But that's about HER, and I'm more interested in YOU!
God Bless,
COG
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